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Managing Conflict When Planning A Funeral

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Death brings about a gamut of emotions, including sadness and emptiness. However, anger and frustration often plague people who are dealing with grief, and unfortunately, these emotions can get in the way of the funeral planning process. While there is no way to make everyone magically agree, there are things that can be done to manage these conflicts.

Look in the Mirror

When a conflict arises, it's a great opportunity to self-reflect. In some instances, the reason for the conflict is the other person, but there are also those times when the reason for the conflict is more personal — it's you. 

If a family member or close friend brought up a concern, take a minute to assess your actions and see if you could have handled the situation better. For example, if your relative wanted a particular song sung during the service and you shut it down with a quick no, consider how things might have been different if you would have told your loved one that you'd consider the idea. Always take the time to self-assess.  

Consider the Bigger Picture

Remember that while a funeral service is a way for the family to express their love for the deceased, more importantly, it's a way to honor the life of the deceased. When you think about the plans from this perspective, it's much easier to remember that you should always consider the bigger picture and toss any petty disagreements to the side, as they are not important. 

Don't be afraid to remind any of your family members of the importance of the day so that they can also remember that it's not the time for disagreements. 

Learn to Walk Away

It's always a good idea to be able to identify the time when it's best for you to walk away. For instance, if you get into a heated discussion with family members about the service arrangements and you don't see anything resolving in the future, go ahead and walk away and take a short break.

Sometimes, even a short walk around the parking lot or sitting in your car for a few minutes listening to music can help you calm down. If you continue to go back and forth, you're likely to get angrier, which will only make the situation worse. 

It's impossible to tell a person how to feel, nor is it possible to ignore the person. However, with these tips, you can learn to navigate the situation and focus on your loved one.

For more information, contact a company that offers funeral services.


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